Let’s just say she responded a lot more kindly than I would have.
If you’re currently single, you’re probably aware that the 2021 dating scene is basically a war zone.
I personally have had way too many encounters with ghosters, manipulators, and narcissists. But I’ve never seen anything like the bullshit 26-year-old Molly Hair was subjected to over the summer. She was on her way to meet up with a guy she’d met at a bar who asked her on a date, when she received the following accidental text from him: “Waiting on this c*nt. I took a pinch for confidence.”
According to Urban Dictionary, “a pinch” could mean anything from chewing tobacco to cocaine, which really adds a whole other layer of chaos to this man.
Molly posted the exchange on TikTok a few days ago, and the video already has over 5 million views. I needed to know more about this disgusting encounter, so I reached out to Molly to hear the whole story.
“I was in the car, parking and about to go into the restaurant, when I got the text,” Molly told BuzzFeed. “I was just shocked when I saw it. I wasn’t really that offended because I knew he didn’t actually think I was a c*nt, but it bothered me that he just casually calls women that behind their backs.” Molly immediately went home. In another video, she showed the guy’s follow-up texts, where he apologized profusely, but tried WAY too many times to get another chance with her.
I noticed that Molly took a very kind approach in her responses to him, so I asked about her reasoning behind it (since I would most definitely not be as civil). “I don’t think he is a bad person, I just think he needs to learn that that’s not okay,” she said. “I think I was hoping he’d learn from this experience — to not call women that. Maybe that’s naïve of me.”
“I think the text represents how a lot of men have this ‘locker room talk’ where they say certain things to each other that they would never say to women. Based on his panicked reaction to realizing he sent it to me, I think it’s clear that he would never have said that to my face,” she said. “The fact that (some) men are okay with using certain language around each other, but they can’t use that same language around women is a problem.”
“It just tells me he doesn’t respect women. I don’t think all men are like that and I know many who are not, but I do think there is a culture of men disrespecting women and playing it off as a ‘joke,'” she said.
A few months after this disturbing encounter, Molly saw the guy at a different bar. He approached her, but she did her best to avoid him. The next day, he texted her saying “hey,” but she never responded. I really hope — for the sake of all the future women this man comes into contact with — that he learned his lesson.