One day I got emails from women asking how to let a guy know they are interested — and get him to approach them. I also got emails from men who want tips that help them know a woman is really interested in them.
As usual, I dug into the research literature. As it turns out, a few pioneering researchers have covertly watched women flirting, in bars and on campuses, to answer these very questions. Through their observations, they have found a number of nonverbal behaviors and body language cues that women use to signal their potential interest to men, and motivate men to approach them, too.
Nonverbal Courtship Patterns in Women
The first study I reviewed came from Moore (1985), who performed an observational study of women flirting in bars and on a college campus. Specifically, Moore had two trained observers covertly watch more than 200 single women in those locations for about 30 minutes each, and record the women’s “nonverbal solicitation signals.” Further, the researchers defined these solicitation signals as “a movement of body part(s) or whole body that resulted in male attention, operationally defined, within 15 seconds following the behavior” (Moore, 1985). Male attention was further defined as a man approaching the woman, talking to her, asking her to dance, or even (in a few instances) kissing her.
From those observations, Moore (1985) identified 52 nonverbal behaviors that women use to signal their potential interest in a man.
Women flirting will behave in certain ways to try and give guys signals they are interested in or attracted to them. However, most men don’t know how to interpret these flirting signs and are missing opportunities where they could be getting with these women if they only knew how to read the sign and react to them in the right way.
After digging into the knowledge and theories, then looking upon the internet. I have collected some flirting signs that women often do. I hope it can help you kickstart your relationship.